Lately I feel like I have been blogging about those who annoy me or get on my nerves or do downright stupid things, etc. Either I am getting too touchy about things or just need a good long break from reality (not going to happen so it's probably the touchiness that is the issue).
I had to go into work a few days ago and thankfully I have a great boss who doesn't mind if I bring Sophia with me. She was a really good baby on this particular day and just stayed asleep in her carrier almost the whole time. But the carrier is near me at the desk so all the customers can see her......not something I mind at all (showing off my little cutie!)....until I start to get the weird questions. Sure, a lot of the questions are typical (whose baby? how old? what's her name? is she your first?).....but one older couple that came in actually asked me this weird question and oddly, they were not the first to ask it of me....."When are you planning on having another?"
I answered with my standard "Not for a while" line but after the fact (and for the past couple of days) I have been thinking about what a strange question that is and why in the world do so many people ask it. This particular couple doesn't even know me (or my husband) so why do they care when and how many kids I have? Why does anyone else (besides me or my husband) really care so much about this topic? Is it just something to say when they can't think of anything else? It is seriously annoying since there is absolutely nothing wrong with the adorable 3 month old baby that we have now and this question over and over makes me think maybe she was a good try but we need to keep trying for that "perfect" baby or something like that.
I have started to think of some good remarks to the next people that dare to ask me this question.....
1. We only live in a 2 bedroom condo so we don't have room for any more kids. Sure, they may think we are poor but that should leave them feeling a little uncomfortable.
2. We don't make enough money yet to support another baby....we barely make enough to support this one and the two of us! Again, that should get them squirming a bit.
3. There is nothing wrong with the little baby we have so until there is we won't try for another. And no, we don't ever want anything to be wrong with her. She is perfect and always will be.
4. Is our reproductive schedule your business?? Nope, didn't think so. This one is a little rude and snarky so I'll probably just say that one in my head.
5. We aren't trying to compete with the Duggars so we'll have another when we feel like it. Hopefully I won't have to go into who the Duggars are since that will weaken my comeback quite a bit.
All that being said, if I really thought about the question, I don't know when we will plan to add another baby to our family. I feel like I love the one we have SO much and we are getting to know her and love her more every day that I can't imagine having to split that love between more kids. But I would definitely like to have more kids and I know I will end up loving them just as much. Just right now my whole life is about Sophia and I am fine with that. Plus there is some truth to some of my snotty comebacks....we would need a bigger living space and more income to support a larger family. Which I know those things will come as well....in time. So everyone (family, friends, and strangers alike) can just relax....we'll have more kids but it won't be anytime too soon and we will let you know when it happens for sure.....just don't ask me that question for at least a couple years!!!!
Thursday, December 16, 2010
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Birthday Shout-Out!
To my little brother, Dillon James.
Seventeen years ago he came into the world and the Mercer family was then complete. Cheesy, but true! (See my sister's wonderful blog for the details of that day as she remembers it and her own b-day shout out to him)
Mostly I just want to say that I am very lucky to have such a wonderful little brother....he has gone from adorable baby to handsome young man and I am very proud of him and the person he has become. Sure, he knows about a thousand ways to annoy me but that just comes with the territory of any younger sibling! I definitely consider him my friend and a wonderful uncle to my daughter....as much as he is grossed out by her spitting up (which she unfortunately does often) I can tell that he loves her as much as she loves him....and he is going to be a great Godfather for her.
I hope that I tell him enough how much I love him and am proud of him....seventeen years has flown by and before I can blink I will probably be blogging about him at college and his wedding and his kids and all his great accomplishments....hope it doesn't go too fast, I am looking forward to enjoying all those moments with my favorite brother! :-)
Seventeen years ago he came into the world and the Mercer family was then complete. Cheesy, but true! (See my sister's wonderful blog for the details of that day as she remembers it and her own b-day shout out to him)
Mostly I just want to say that I am very lucky to have such a wonderful little brother....he has gone from adorable baby to handsome young man and I am very proud of him and the person he has become. Sure, he knows about a thousand ways to annoy me but that just comes with the territory of any younger sibling! I definitely consider him my friend and a wonderful uncle to my daughter....as much as he is grossed out by her spitting up (which she unfortunately does often) I can tell that he loves her as much as she loves him....and he is going to be a great Godfather for her.
I hope that I tell him enough how much I love him and am proud of him....seventeen years has flown by and before I can blink I will probably be blogging about him at college and his wedding and his kids and all his great accomplishments....hope it doesn't go too fast, I am looking forward to enjoying all those moments with my favorite brother! :-)
Friday, December 10, 2010
The Friday Five
I have seen some other fellow bloggers do this and thought I might do the same, if nothing more than to make sure I at least post one blog a week! Basically it is just five completely random items that have to do with me, my family, my life, my week....just whatever! So, here we go.
1. Sophia HATES tummy time. We put her on her tummy a few times a day and she puts her head up for like 3 seconds and then gets mad and smashes her face into whatever we have put her face down on. So, we know she can do it, she is just stubborn and dislikes it immensely. Not sure yet how to fix that problem!!
2. Michael had his last class of grad school on Wednesday. I am SO SO happy about that. Not only will he now have an MBA, he will be able to stay home with us every night and we can do normal family things together.
3. We are going to Michael's work Christmas party tomorrow night. I have attended it every year (except last year) since 1996. And that is not necessarily a good thing. At least the last several times haven't ended with any throwing up, haha.
4. In relation to item #3, I have to actually put on a nice, normal, non-maternity party dress. Ugh. Even though the scale says I am finally the same weight as before I got pregnant with Sophia, the mirror says gross, go get a personal trainer or liposuction...or both! Ugh. Needless to say, the dress is black.
5. Despite items 3 and 4, I am actually in the Christmas spirit and excited for the holiday. The last couple of years I was so busy with working extra hours (in retail) and so tired that I didn't even decorate....this year we have a real tree and lots of decorations and plans to make cookies and a gingerbread house. Oh yeah, and we have Sophia! I think that even though she won't know what is going on and won't even remember it, I want to make her first Christmas really special. :-)
1. Sophia HATES tummy time. We put her on her tummy a few times a day and she puts her head up for like 3 seconds and then gets mad and smashes her face into whatever we have put her face down on. So, we know she can do it, she is just stubborn and dislikes it immensely. Not sure yet how to fix that problem!!
2. Michael had his last class of grad school on Wednesday. I am SO SO happy about that. Not only will he now have an MBA, he will be able to stay home with us every night and we can do normal family things together.
3. We are going to Michael's work Christmas party tomorrow night. I have attended it every year (except last year) since 1996. And that is not necessarily a good thing. At least the last several times haven't ended with any throwing up, haha.
4. In relation to item #3, I have to actually put on a nice, normal, non-maternity party dress. Ugh. Even though the scale says I am finally the same weight as before I got pregnant with Sophia, the mirror says gross, go get a personal trainer or liposuction...or both! Ugh. Needless to say, the dress is black.
5. Despite items 3 and 4, I am actually in the Christmas spirit and excited for the holiday. The last couple of years I was so busy with working extra hours (in retail) and so tired that I didn't even decorate....this year we have a real tree and lots of decorations and plans to make cookies and a gingerbread house. Oh yeah, and we have Sophia! I think that even though she won't know what is going on and won't even remember it, I want to make her first Christmas really special. :-)
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Need to Just Stop Watching.....
Reality TV!!! I admit that day time television is pretty lame and I get stuck watching all sorts of weird and worthless shows when Sophia and I are cuddling on the couch during the day. I will often TiVo shows that I know Michael won't watch so that I can have at least some shows of interest for us to watch during the day so we are not at the mercy of the daytime line up. Unfortunately some of those shows are just as bad. I know that I have blogged about this particular show in the past (and really just need to stop watching it altogether) but I can't help but comment on a situation that occurred in a recent episode of 16 & Pregnant.
I really truly do not expect mother-of-the-year awards for any of these young (and very often unfit) teenage moms but I guess I am just naive or stupid enough to expect a little common sense....some maternal instinct that would kick in to suggest some activities are just not appropriate to do with your newborn.
The episode actually seemed to be going quite well (I mean, as well as a show about a pregnant teenager could go)....the girl had supportive and present parents and a baby-daddy that actually wanted to be involved and marry her and all that. Her baby was born 5 weeks premature but healthy. So how did this show go so wrong in my eyes? Well, at about 5 or 6 weeks old, the girl decides to take her baby horseback riding with her. Yeah, you read that correctly. She decided to take her infant preemie son on a horseback ride with her. What in the world?? I'm not even sure where to start on this topic as far as the thoughts going through my head. Like for example, her parents or at the very least, the baby's father, didn't find anything wrong with that?? She put him in a baby carrier and strapped it to her chest.....but as far as I could tell, the baby was probably too little for even that. And then she practically crushed him as she hoisted herself up onto the horse (with the help from her baby's daddy)!!! After jostling him around (I was holding my breath as his tiny head bounced around) for a good ten minutes or so she finally decided it wasn't going to work out. No kidding.
I have GOT to stop watching this stupid, stupid show. After 3 or 4 seasons I think the world gets it...don't have a baby as a teenager. Thankfully I really don't have to watch it to learn valuable lessons about what NOT to do with a baby. No horseback riding for me and Sophia. Check. No spending all our income on giant speakers for the trunk of our car (compliments of last weeks episode). Check. And both Michael and I have graduated high school AND college already so we don't have to try and squeeze in studying for our GED. Phew.
I really do feel bad for these kids. I also feel bad that there seems to be SO many teenagers that are reproducing....it's pretty easy these days to figure out how to keep that from happening, even if your parents and your school don't offer up all the various ways of prevention. I guess MTV feels like they are "helping" by showing all the sad stories of kids having kids....but I think they are missing the mark. If a teenager doesn't know that she shouldn't put her infant baby on a horse then another teenager might not get the "don't have a teen pregnancy" message.
I have actually learned a very valuable lesson from this show though..........
STOP WATCHING IT!!!!!! Guess my own common sense failed me on that one. I'll just go back to watching regular daytime television now!!
I really truly do not expect mother-of-the-year awards for any of these young (and very often unfit) teenage moms but I guess I am just naive or stupid enough to expect a little common sense....some maternal instinct that would kick in to suggest some activities are just not appropriate to do with your newborn.
The episode actually seemed to be going quite well (I mean, as well as a show about a pregnant teenager could go)....the girl had supportive and present parents and a baby-daddy that actually wanted to be involved and marry her and all that. Her baby was born 5 weeks premature but healthy. So how did this show go so wrong in my eyes? Well, at about 5 or 6 weeks old, the girl decides to take her baby horseback riding with her. Yeah, you read that correctly. She decided to take her infant preemie son on a horseback ride with her. What in the world?? I'm not even sure where to start on this topic as far as the thoughts going through my head. Like for example, her parents or at the very least, the baby's father, didn't find anything wrong with that?? She put him in a baby carrier and strapped it to her chest.....but as far as I could tell, the baby was probably too little for even that. And then she practically crushed him as she hoisted herself up onto the horse (with the help from her baby's daddy)!!! After jostling him around (I was holding my breath as his tiny head bounced around) for a good ten minutes or so she finally decided it wasn't going to work out. No kidding.
I have GOT to stop watching this stupid, stupid show. After 3 or 4 seasons I think the world gets it...don't have a baby as a teenager. Thankfully I really don't have to watch it to learn valuable lessons about what NOT to do with a baby. No horseback riding for me and Sophia. Check. No spending all our income on giant speakers for the trunk of our car (compliments of last weeks episode). Check. And both Michael and I have graduated high school AND college already so we don't have to try and squeeze in studying for our GED. Phew.
I really do feel bad for these kids. I also feel bad that there seems to be SO many teenagers that are reproducing....it's pretty easy these days to figure out how to keep that from happening, even if your parents and your school don't offer up all the various ways of prevention. I guess MTV feels like they are "helping" by showing all the sad stories of kids having kids....but I think they are missing the mark. If a teenager doesn't know that she shouldn't put her infant baby on a horse then another teenager might not get the "don't have a teen pregnancy" message.
I have actually learned a very valuable lesson from this show though..........
STOP WATCHING IT!!!!!! Guess my own common sense failed me on that one. I'll just go back to watching regular daytime television now!!
Monday, December 6, 2010
There are No Words for Some People...
I had a great weekend and will update all that in a minute, but first the main point of today's blog....
Today Sophia and I ventured out to the mall so I could get some shoes for the party dress I already bought for this coming weekend (Michael's work party). Sophia wasn't really feeling the shopping but with the party so soon I needed to get out and get the chore done and she had no choice but to come with me. I ended up finding TWO cute pairs in Macy's at a really good discount and stood in a short line to check out. As I was finishing up with paying, a sales associate noticed my stroller and came around so she could "take a closer look at the baby". Well, ok, whatever. She takes a good look and laughs and says loudly "Oh, she's so FAT, what are you feeding her?"
What. The. HELL??!!!
Was that supposed to be a compliment? Cause you sure missed the mark, lady. I would take it personally if someone flat out called me fat (and I at least really could stand to lose some weight) and I took it quite personally with someone calling my baby fat. Especially since she is really not fat at all...she does have some cute chubby cheeks, I'll give her that, but we've only been in size 1 diapers for several weeks now and she is between 0-3 month and 3-6 month clothing...and she is 3 months so that seems pretty average. The doctor has said she is right at 50th percentile on the charts for weight. To me that does not say fat.
As a mental explosion went off in my brain, I tried to just chuckle a bit as I answered the lady, "well, since she's only 3 months we still only feed her formula". And I walked off as she said something else, who knows what, probably that the fat apple didn't fall far from the fat tree or something equally rude. She's lucky I didn't tell her what I thought of her! Needless to say, our shopping trip ended shortly after that. At least I got what I went for.
On to more positive topics. This past weekend was really busy, but really fun. Friday night I met my mom and sister at the movies to see Burlesque while Michael watched Sophia. The movie was great and Daddy and baby had a good time together....till she screamed for about an hour at the end, haha. She must've missed her mommy!! Saturday morning we took Sophia and my sister brought my nephew Cooper up to Michael's work to see Santa....Sophia didn't mind the old guy but Coop wasn't having it and my sister had to sit on Santa's lap too to get the picture! We had a great afternoon watching the Auburn game (War Eagle!) and then Sunday I did a little shopping with my mom and sister and we ended the evening with the whole family at a nice Italian restaurant. All in all it was a wonderful weekend and all the fun Christmas festivities seem to be in full swing. I am glad that I am getting in to the Christmas spirit, I think having Sophia in the family has really made it so the holidays are fun and exciting!
Today Sophia and I ventured out to the mall so I could get some shoes for the party dress I already bought for this coming weekend (Michael's work party). Sophia wasn't really feeling the shopping but with the party so soon I needed to get out and get the chore done and she had no choice but to come with me. I ended up finding TWO cute pairs in Macy's at a really good discount and stood in a short line to check out. As I was finishing up with paying, a sales associate noticed my stroller and came around so she could "take a closer look at the baby". Well, ok, whatever. She takes a good look and laughs and says loudly "Oh, she's so FAT, what are you feeding her?"
What. The. HELL??!!!
Was that supposed to be a compliment? Cause you sure missed the mark, lady. I would take it personally if someone flat out called me fat (and I at least really could stand to lose some weight) and I took it quite personally with someone calling my baby fat. Especially since she is really not fat at all...she does have some cute chubby cheeks, I'll give her that, but we've only been in size 1 diapers for several weeks now and she is between 0-3 month and 3-6 month clothing...and she is 3 months so that seems pretty average. The doctor has said she is right at 50th percentile on the charts for weight. To me that does not say fat.
As a mental explosion went off in my brain, I tried to just chuckle a bit as I answered the lady, "well, since she's only 3 months we still only feed her formula". And I walked off as she said something else, who knows what, probably that the fat apple didn't fall far from the fat tree or something equally rude. She's lucky I didn't tell her what I thought of her! Needless to say, our shopping trip ended shortly after that. At least I got what I went for.
On to more positive topics. This past weekend was really busy, but really fun. Friday night I met my mom and sister at the movies to see Burlesque while Michael watched Sophia. The movie was great and Daddy and baby had a good time together....till she screamed for about an hour at the end, haha. She must've missed her mommy!! Saturday morning we took Sophia and my sister brought my nephew Cooper up to Michael's work to see Santa....Sophia didn't mind the old guy but Coop wasn't having it and my sister had to sit on Santa's lap too to get the picture! We had a great afternoon watching the Auburn game (War Eagle!) and then Sunday I did a little shopping with my mom and sister and we ended the evening with the whole family at a nice Italian restaurant. All in all it was a wonderful weekend and all the fun Christmas festivities seem to be in full swing. I am glad that I am getting in to the Christmas spirit, I think having Sophia in the family has really made it so the holidays are fun and exciting!
Friday, December 3, 2010
Wow, Time Flies!
So I can't believe that 9 weeks have passed since my last blog! I have a 12 week old baby now...and she is growing fast and changing everyday. Sophia Rose definitely keeps me busy and on my toes. But I love being her Mommy and wouldn't have it any other way. :-)
Good news, we got a new laptop computer this week. I think it will be SO helpful to me to have an actual functional laptop, at least where blogging is concerned! I can just fire up the laptop in any room I am in (mine, Sophia's, the living room on the couch...which is where I am right now...with Sophia laying on the couch right next to me!) and blog away. I am glad I should be able to keep my few followers more in the loop on my life, haha. Now I just have to figure out how to get all my pictures loaded on this computer so I can add those to the blog as well....lots and lots of Sophia pictures!
Well I guess this isn't much of an update but I wanted to let everyone know that I am not completely off the map and will be blogging much more frequently in the future....can't wait!!
Good news, we got a new laptop computer this week. I think it will be SO helpful to me to have an actual functional laptop, at least where blogging is concerned! I can just fire up the laptop in any room I am in (mine, Sophia's, the living room on the couch...which is where I am right now...with Sophia laying on the couch right next to me!) and blog away. I am glad I should be able to keep my few followers more in the loop on my life, haha. Now I just have to figure out how to get all my pictures loaded on this computer so I can add those to the blog as well....lots and lots of Sophia pictures!
Well I guess this isn't much of an update but I wanted to let everyone know that I am not completely off the map and will be blogging much more frequently in the future....can't wait!!
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
She's Here!!!
So I haven't had the chance to blog in a while....I've been busy with our little one, who finally decided to grace us with her presence 6 days after her due date!!
Sophia Rose Santoro is here!!!
She is 3 weeks old today and even though it has probably been the most tiring 3 weeks of my life, I will say that they have also been very memorable and wonderful weeks, starting with the moment Sophia came into the world.
This blog will mostly be about the experience and then I will do a separate entry full of pictures....she is so adorable, there are definitely lots of great pictures of her!!
Going back to my last blog, I still had another week and one more doctors appointment until my actual due date (which was Sept 1). At my final doc appointment, 2 days before said due date, I was only dilated at 2 cm...pretty depressing but the doc said everything did look good and she was pretty sure that I would be heading to the hospital later that week to have the baby...but just in case not, we set up an induction date of Sept 7 (in which we would head to the hospital on the evening of the 6th to get settled). Needless to say, she wasn't quite right with her prediction so at 3pm on Monday, September 6th (which happened to be Labor Day, haha) we got everything together and nervously headed over to Northside Hospital. We "checked in" and got settled in our room and then they hooked me up to monitors and stuff and explained the process of starting the induction the next morning. As the short version of the story goes, they started my induction at 8 am on September 7 and twelve and a half hours later at 8:30pm that evening our little girl finally made her appearance into the world!! (For the long version of the story just contact me....it was definitely a memorable day that I won't soon forget...no matter how many people say "oh you'll forget all about that part of it"!)
By Friday, September 10th we were cleared to go home with our new little sweetheart. I think Michael and I were both pretty nervous but I don't think we really needed to be. It sure has been an adjustment and we are getting used to not getting our beauty sleep (haha) but I don't think I have ever been happier. So strange that a little tiny person (who at this point only eats, sleeps, and poops) can totally complete a family and bring more love to two people than they ever thought there could be. I don't want to speed up time, I am so enjoying every moment with our little girl, but I can't wait to see her little personality develop and how she grows. I know that she already fits in perfectly in our family and I am so happy that Sophia Rose is finally here!!!
Sophia Rose Santoro is here!!!
She is 3 weeks old today and even though it has probably been the most tiring 3 weeks of my life, I will say that they have also been very memorable and wonderful weeks, starting with the moment Sophia came into the world.
This blog will mostly be about the experience and then I will do a separate entry full of pictures....she is so adorable, there are definitely lots of great pictures of her!!
Going back to my last blog, I still had another week and one more doctors appointment until my actual due date (which was Sept 1). At my final doc appointment, 2 days before said due date, I was only dilated at 2 cm...pretty depressing but the doc said everything did look good and she was pretty sure that I would be heading to the hospital later that week to have the baby...but just in case not, we set up an induction date of Sept 7 (in which we would head to the hospital on the evening of the 6th to get settled). Needless to say, she wasn't quite right with her prediction so at 3pm on Monday, September 6th (which happened to be Labor Day, haha) we got everything together and nervously headed over to Northside Hospital. We "checked in" and got settled in our room and then they hooked me up to monitors and stuff and explained the process of starting the induction the next morning. As the short version of the story goes, they started my induction at 8 am on September 7 and twelve and a half hours later at 8:30pm that evening our little girl finally made her appearance into the world!! (For the long version of the story just contact me....it was definitely a memorable day that I won't soon forget...no matter how many people say "oh you'll forget all about that part of it"!)
By Friday, September 10th we were cleared to go home with our new little sweetheart. I think Michael and I were both pretty nervous but I don't think we really needed to be. It sure has been an adjustment and we are getting used to not getting our beauty sleep (haha) but I don't think I have ever been happier. So strange that a little tiny person (who at this point only eats, sleeps, and poops) can totally complete a family and bring more love to two people than they ever thought there could be. I don't want to speed up time, I am so enjoying every moment with our little girl, but I can't wait to see her little personality develop and how she grows. I know that she already fits in perfectly in our family and I am so happy that Sophia Rose is finally here!!!
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